17 Life Lessons (I Wish Someone Had Told Me)（原声文稿）

Transcript of 年少百万身家的Gadzhi：17条我盼你早点知道的人生法则 （中文完整文稿）。

So ladies and gentlemen, I grew up without a father.

I'm an only child and the reason I'm telling you this is because I am going to tell you 17 life lessons I wish someone had told me as a teenager.

So these are things that I had to find out the difficult way and that's why I'm sharing them with you today.

So that way you do not need to go through the years and years of pain, struggle, soul searching that I went through and you can just bypass all of that if you listen and you take heed.

So I've got a couple things written down and honestly, I'm just gonna spitball these 17 lessons.

Lesson number one is you need to extend your timeline and I know that is very difficult when you watch my videos.

It's very difficult when you are on TikTok and you see these 18 year old, 21 year old millionaires and I understand that I am even a part of that issue sitting here at the age of 23 years old with tens of millions of dollars.

It is so easy to see the final product and think that you need to rush when quite frankly, you don't.

I can tell you that I have missed out on so many, hang out with the friends, grab a beer with the friends, watch the football game. My childhood and my teenage years had none of that. Which is why I want you to understand, extend the timeline. You want to become a millionaire? Great.

Give yourself 5 years. Give yourself 10 years. You don't need to rush. Now I will say if you can get rich faster, go for it.

If you can learn a high income skill and we'll talk about it a little later down the line.

If you can start a side gig that then turns into a small business that then turns into a very large business, go for it. but just alleviate the pressure.

Stop thinking you need to become a millionaire in a year, two years.

And even in my position, I understand I did not have a normal person's journey.

It is not normal to amass the sort of wealth that I have amassed.

And by the way, as I said, that came with a lot of drawbacks.

So I don't just think it's all roses and sunshine, but even me in my position, you can see videos of me in 2015, 2016 when I was just starting out my business with acting on my face, reading books, going to the gym, being an absolute loner.

And I say this because please keep this in mind any time you watch my video or some TikTok, this stuff does not happen overnight.

It has been nearly a decade since I started reading a book a week, since I started meditating, going to the gym, and setting the building blocks in the foundation for the man that I would go on to be.

So please, keep your foot on the gas, keep pressing, but extend your timeline. Time is your biggest asset at the moment. The next life lesson is walk with purpose.

I remember even from the age of 15 or 16, I would walk down the street. You could tell I was on a mission.

And I think that was really just a sign of having a clear direction, a vision for what I could become.

So when you walk down the street, I'm not saying that you need to sprint, keep your shoulders back, look straight, walk with a clear direction, look like you know where you're going.

Now the next thing is to focus on practicality and not purpose.

I hear this whole thing of, oh, I'm not starting because I just need to find my purpose, I need to find my passion. Stop it. Focus on practicality.

When you are a teenager, you will not know your purpose, you will not know your mission.

And even in your 20s, even the phase I'm in, it will morph and it will change.

So instead, focus on practicality, focus on learning skills that are practical, focus on starting businesses or careers that are practical, focus on getting an apprenticeship or even a low paying job that isn't the destination of where you want to get to, but is practical and will teach you the core foundation and the core principles to then go on and succeed in your 20s.

Now the next life lesson and this is so important and I know I'm just speaking to men here and a lot of times in my content I speak to men but for reasons that I've previously mentioned it is important for me to put out content and nurture the next generation of men.

So men listen to me when I say focus on becoming a gentleman.

In this world and especially in the West I see some of the most disgusting behavior from men.

It does not surprise me that so many women treat you with disrespect because you are not men even worthy of respect.

Do not listen to all of these guys that have never lived in the real world telling you oh you're a simp if you pick up a girl if you drop a girl home after a date if you pay for the bill. I don't know who raised some of these kids because quite clearly they're not actual men.

The way that I was raised is as a man you pay for the bill and if you cannot pay for the bill if you cannot afford to and when I was younger I was in that position. Well then And guess what? Get to work. Don't take girls out to dinner. Put your head down and focus.

If you're taking a girl to dinner, you pick her up. You drop her home. You do the gentlemanly thing.

I cannot express how important these things are to learn in your teenage years.

Other things. Understanding a girl's alcohol tolerance.

I see so many idiots that give girls drink after drink after drink. Not seeing that they are quite clearly intoxicated.

As I said, I don't know how some guys were raised but the way that I was raised, If you are with a woman, if she's your date or she's one of your friends, in that situation, you are responsible for her. So act accordingly.

If you want to be a man of honor, if you want to be a man that deserves respect, then you must learn how to treat a woman properly. Never ever let her cross your boundaries.

And just remember, if you are a man that is worthy of respect, then obviously never accept disrespect from another party.

By just thinking in this world, we live in so many men are afraid of, you know, come across and being a simp.

If you pay for the bill or if you pick her up on a way to date, that is absolutely no way to conduct yourself as a man.

So learn these principles as a teenager and they will carry through for the rest of your life.

Especially if you stack them up with all these other life lessons, then you are going to be a man of honor.

You are going to be a man that other women respect. And I can tell you that that goes very far in life. The next thing is I want you to enjoy the journey.

I want you to remember that these are your glory years.

These years right now as a teenager and especially in your early teens even, these These are the years you're going to look back at with fondness because these are the years that you built.

You built your character, the person that you were going to become.

I can tell you right now that my most fond years were probably the year before I started my first ever business when I was 16 and the couple years after that. The years where things were tough, they were not easy.

I was making sacrifices, it was difficult at the time, but I have so much appreciation for it now.

So please, if things are difficult or they're hard right now, take a moment to appreciate it because these are the years you're going to be talking about in a decade, two decades.

When you're sitting outside with your boys at your beachfront property having a cigar or drinking a glass of wine and reminiscing about the good times.

Now if you're in your teens, I want you to start investing now and I don't care if it's $10 a week or $30 a week or $50, whatever you can do, even if it's $5 a week, it's not about the money and it's not about the eighth wonder of the world compound interest because I'll be honest at this age it really doesn't matter and hopefully in a few years you should be making a very very good income that far exceeds anything you could ever make from investing.

All it comes down to is simply good habits.

I do not believe that if you won't invest $10 when you make $100 a month, that you'll invest $10 ,000 when you make $100 ,000 a month.

And if those numbers sound crazy to you, I can't imagine ever making $100 ,000 a month, all this, just park that in your mind for now, okay? You don't need to worry about that. But I'm telling you, it's a very, very strong reality.

If you're consuming content like this and you dedicate your life to building over the next year, three years, five years, 10 years, I can tell you numbers like that almost guaranteed in your future.

But I know for a lot of you that will overwhelm you.

So just park that aside for right now. If you make $100 a month, just invest 10.

It's simply having good financial hygiene and building those good habits early on.

The next life lesson if you're a teenager is build high income skills.

A high income skill could be content creation, it could be sales, it could be copywriting.

These are things that no matter what, I don't care if the year is 2023, I don't care if the year is 2040, these will always be important skills. And these will always be highly paid skills.

So please do not get caught up in short term fads, short term trends.

Ask yourself, if I learn this skill today, will this pay dividends in five years, 10 years, 20 years?

And if the answer is yes, well, then maybe you should consider learning it.

Now the next life lesson, this especially applies to men is focus on building muscle and your physique, especially between the ages of 16 to 21, 22.

If you can get in the gym, if you can do exercise, whether that's a standard sort of bro split routine, whether that's powerlifting, whether that's crossfit, whatever you decide to do, building muscle at a young age, you're going to have that mind muscle connection, and you're going to keep that on and you're going to carry that through for the rest of your life.

You know, I started going to the gym when I was 14, someone argued that that was even too young, but I'm very happy that I did and I'm very happy that I built up muscle in my teenage years because now I do a lot of tennis, I do a lot of running, some boxing and I never really worry about losing muscle or my physique or anything like that because I had more than half a decade of nurturing that.

So especially for men as our testosterone starts to decline in our mid 20s onwards, use these years to your advantage, lift heavy things, push yourself, train hard because you have this incredible advantage and will carry through for the rest of your life.

The next life lesson is be confident but acknowledge your age and your lack of wisdom.

I started my first business when I was 16 years old and by the way this was on a business where I was hiding behind a computer I was front -facing with clients.

I was pitching multi -million dollar businesses.

So I had to walk in with confidence I had to be presentable. I had to talk.

I had to communicate clearly I had to be confident regardless of my age and I had to do that front -facing publicly to potential clients But at home when I was alone in solace in peace I understood and even me sat here at 23 hundreds of thousands of people even millions of people around the world Looking at me as a hero and inspiration a mentor.

I understand that at the end of the day I still have so much to learn.

I understand that of course I got started so early I had my first employee at the age of 17.

I dropped out of school at the age of 17 to support me and my mom I've experienced so much by this age But no matter what, wisdom is solidified through decades and decades of experience.

So if you are in your teenage years, be confident, walk through life with confidence.

Don't let your age, especially when it comes to business and your career, don't let that weigh you down.

But in moments of peace and quiet, acknowledge that no matter how well you're doing, wisdom is only truly forged through decades and decades of life experience.

The next life lesson, and once again this relates specifically to the men, is get comfortable talking to girls.

Listen, of course, I believe that as a teenager and in your early to mid 20s, those are your years to build.

But it doesn't matter if you're even 15, get used to speaking to girls.

Don't let yourself become one of these 25 year olds that goes on to become a multi -millionaire but is just creepy around women.

Get comfortable speaking to girls if you're in a cafe and you think a girl is cute. Just talk to her.

What's the worst that could happen? And even better, just give her a compliment. And that's it. Don't ask for her number. Don't ask for her Instagram.

Just give her a compliment and that is the least that you can do you have to get comfortable speaking with women holding your ground Keeping your chin up and keeping confident Don't let it consume your life because I do not believe that women should be your goal in your teenage and early 20s Because as a man your best years really are from the ages of around 26 28 all the way up until your late 30s But nonetheless just learn how to carry yourself around the opposite sex The next lesson is keep your word and start learning this lesson from a young age If you say that you're going to give someone a certain percentage in your business, well then give them that percentage.

If you say that you can show up to something, well then show up to it.

Your word is your reputation and your reputation is the most important thing that you have.

So learning from a young age to show up to keep your word, that will build trust and that will build respect and that will carry on for the rest of your life.

The next life lesson and once again, I know this relates specifically more to the men is in your 20s, doesn't matter if it's your early, mid or late 20s.

These are your years to build.

If you do things correctly, your 20s will set you up for the rest of your life.

So I made this video specifically for the teenagers, but it's really just to say that your 20s mentally prepare yourself because this truly will be your make or break period in your life. The next life lesson is learn to say no more than you say yes. Learn to say no when people want to go out. Learn to say no to business opportunities.

I know you have that friend who watched a video, has a business idea, and they want to go 50 -50 with you but your gut instinct tells you that it would be a bad business partner or why do I need a business partner in this? I could just do it myself.

So just learn to say no. Learn to stand your ground.

I can tell you right now that yes has ruined more people's lives than no ever has.

People saying yes to getting in relationships they shouldn't be in.

People saying yes to starting businesses that they shouldn't. People saying yes to going out when they shouldn't.

As I said learning to say no will be one of the most invaluable skills that you can learn from a young age. The next lesson is learn how to dress well. Learn how to find good quality clothes.

I know that I'm wearing a shirt with a graphic right now, but I'm in the comfort of my own home.

I'm very relaxed, but when you leave the house, you should be presentable, no big labels.

And by the way, later down the line, once you found your style and what works for you, you can spruce things up. You can get a little bit more funky with it.

But at first, from a young age, learn how to find clothes that fit you well, not too tight and not too loose.

By the way, most people make the mistake of finding clothes that are way too tight for them and I can tell you something that's actually quite funny.

Over the years I've noticed especially with my jeans and my trousers the more money that I've made the looser my trousers have become so that's just I found that that holds true for most of the multimillionaires that I know so learn how to find clothes that have no branding that fit you well that fit your style learn how to layer clothes and then also learn how to start getting stuff tailored you can buy trousers that are $30 or $40 and go take them to tailor They'll get them tailored for you for $15, $20, $30.

And I know that's an additional cost, but you will look far better than the people spending hundreds of dollars on all this designer, this and that, et cetera, et cetera.

So I believe in your teen years, it's very important for you to learn how to dress well.

Obviously your style will morph and it will change as the years go by.

But in your teen years, just learn the basics, learn the classics, and just learn how to dress in a classy, elegant way.

And later down the line, and especially once you have more money, you can start sprinkling things up with, you know, a graphic tee and, you know, maybe some nice jewelry here and there, whatever you want. But for now, just stick to the classics and the simple things. The next thing is you need to learn how to keep strong boundaries.

And this is probably one of the biggest reasons I've been able to have the success that I've had.

Once again, I don't know, maybe it's because I have a Russian mother, Russian people are just very, they have no issue saying no, they have no issue keeping strong boundaries. So maybe I was just raised a certain way.

But from a young age, I knew how to have strong boundaries with with my friendships, with my relationships.

And I believe learning that from a young age has carried on for the rest of my life, where I can honestly say that my friendships, the people that I work with, the people at my companies, any of my romantic relationships, we have such mutual respect for each other. We have an understanding for each other's boundaries.

And that was all built off the back of, from a young age, learning to say no, as I mentioned earlier on, and learning how to have strong boundaries with the people around me.

Now, the next thing that I wanna talk about, and I know that for some of you, I have atheists watching, so maybe you might roll your eyes. whatever you want to believe in, go for it. Build your relationship with the Creator.

Whatever the Creator means to you, whatever religion you follow, whatever it is, maybe you're just spiritual.

But build a relationship with whatever the Creator means to you because I can tell you, you will have some of the highest highs in your life and you will have some of the lowest lows if you live life properly. Because the worst life you can have is just a flat line.

So if you follow all of these life lessons, then you will have a life of incredible highs and incredible lows and as I said that is what makes a good life and the only way to stay sane and not go crazy in those periods is to be humbled by the Creator.

As I said whatever that means to you is to understand that there is something bigger than you and the only way that you're gonna get through this crazy turbulent tumultuous life is by having a strong relationship with the Creator.

I remember I was six or seven when I started praying to God and the reason that I started praying to God was because I had a very very difficult upbringing and it's funny the only people that I see that don't have a relationship with the creator, whatever that means to them, is the people who have had a life like this.

The people who never went out there, never took risks, never fought for the life that they wanted. For some reason, they're always the ones that seem to turn to atheism. So I can tell you, from first -hand experience, life will get crazy.

And the only way to stay sane when times are good and when they're bad is to have a relationship with God or the Creator or whatever you want to refer to it as.

The last and arguably the most important life lesson for teenagers is take ownership of your life. Something great happens in your life, great.

You can take responsibility for it, as well as the creator. Something bad happens in your life, great. Take responsibility for it. Radical ownership of your life. No excuses.

It is only you and you to blame. And I know sometimes it will be difficult.

I know sometimes there will be a clear thing or a person or something to point to, something else to blame outside of yourself, but don't fall for that trap.

As I said, take radical ownership of the things that happen in your life.

So ladies and gentlemen, And I genuinely believe that if you're watching this and you're in your teens or you're early to mid -20s If you follow these 17 life lessons these 17 principles, you will live a life of abundance You will live a life of honor that you could never even Imagine and as always I'll be watching from afar and I'll be rooting for you